Well, it
finally happened and I suppose I knew that it would, but it took me completely
by surprise. I was banned from my grandson's life over an argument.
According
to an article on Psychology Today grandparents “can derive tremendous pleasure
from relationships with grandchildren and suffer terrible pain and loss when
those relationships are disrupted or prevented. As with alienation between a
parent and child, alienation between a grandparent and grandchild represents a
form of ambiguous loss in which the child is physically absent but very much
alive in the heart and mind of the grieving grandparent. There is no closure
because the child is still alive. That is the blessing and curse of alienation (Baker, 2015)”.
I my situation may seem different because my daughter’s parental rights
were terminated, but I dropped my custody
petition because I was assured that I would always be part of my
grandson’s life. "You will
always be his Mimi.”
Since I
have no legal standing to visitation there is nothing I can do about my
situation. I've had my phone number blocked, and been denied access to my grandson’s picture account.
His third birthday was in October. I would have liked to see him
blow out his candles. I would have liked to give him a hug and a kiss. My sweet
grandson will forever be three years old to me since I will not be able to
watch him grow, but I maybe one day he will find me.
I love you... all my heart.
